I recently read this line in the book ‘Together’ by Vivek H. Murthy , the former Surgeon General of the US, about loneliness and the deep desire humans have for connection with one another.
The way I interpret this quote is that perhaps if we allow ourselves to ask for help from others- without feeling embarrassed or ashamed, we are also giving someone the opportunity to show kindness through giving- whether thats helping someone solve a problem or gain more clarity on a situation . And we all feel good after giving – yes, there is scientific evidence which shows that being kind releases feel-good chemicals in our brain and we get a “helper’s high”!
The vulnerability we are willing to show by letting our guards down and admitting that we don’t know something and asking for help or seeking advice, gives someone else a chance to give and allows for a deeper human connection. One soul helping another on their journey. We all like to be seen and heard and these opportunities allow for this.
Happy Sunday, have a great day.
A powerful extract from Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now.
“When the compulsive striving away from the Now ceases, the joy of Being flows into everything you do. The moment your attention turns to the Now you feel a presence, a stillness, a peace. You no longer depend on the future for fulfilment and satisfaction- you don’t look to it for salvation.
Continue reading Simply Being
In a follow up to my previous post in which life coach Martha Beck discusses our Essential Self vs. our Social Self, the next part of the interview was a true AH HA moment…
Martha explains ‘Square One’: “As humans we believe that we are supposed to start our lives small with little knowledge, then we get progressively more knowledgeable and intelligent as we get older until we die.” But the process of life is more of a cycle- of learning and then forgetting or having to start from square one again. We are always learning and growing.
Continue reading Back to Square One
In a recent interview on the The Happiness Lab with Dr Laurie Santos, Dr Dan Gilbert discusses how humans are actually pretty bad at predicting situations of happiness and unhappiness in the future. This is because we often use our feelings in the present to simulate future ideas, leading to a mis-prediction of our emotions. Continue reading The Hedonic Treadmill
Naturally introverts are thinkers. Sure, we are doers too but personally, before any doing there is an awful lot of contemplating. As an introvert, there is a lot of inner narration going on throughout the day in my mind. I am constantly looking for the meaning in things, and that involves asking a lot of questions, wanting to know the whys and hows. Continue reading When it all gets too much, go from thinking to being. Why mindfulness may be especially beneficial for introverts.
“That moment you fantasize about, when the bills are paid, the roof stops leaking, the phone’s not ringing, and you soak in the caught-up-ness of it all. That’s when the dog runs away. Or the girlfriend gets pregnant. Or the tornado touches down. Life doesn’t give you breathing room, but if you stop grasping for control of the uncontrollable, you can learn to breathe through it all.”
I stumbled across this extract in an article by Chris Collins in the Yoga Journal from July -Aug 2005, great read!
Our emotions have the superpower to transform the mood in anyone we are interacting with.
Daniel Goleman says, “We unconsciously imitate the emotions we see displayed by someone else, through an out-of-awareness motor mimicry of their facial expression, gestures, tone of voice, and other nonverbal markers of emotion. Through this imitation people re-create in themselves the mood of the other person.”
Continue reading Emotional Contagion
Living in the moment, seeing things more clearly, more richly and sometimes for the first time.
Find joy in the mundane and find extra in the ordinary.
Continue reading The Beginner’s Mind